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The phrase “life is short” is one often used and is the absolute truth. The scary part of life is the unknown; we don’t know when our time to go will come. Death does not discriminate and cares not about age, gender, height, weight, religion, or skin color.
One thing we all know, without a doubt is that death is inevitable, unavoidable and will come for us all at one point or another in life. That being said, this is why we need to make sure we enjoy every single moment in life that we can! We need to remember that although we have children and responsibilities, we should all have the opportunity to travel and experience life, while still doing what we need to do for our families.
We all have different views and opinions about everything, child rearing being one of the areas where opinions will differ, greatly. For me, and I’m sure a lot of other parents can relate, my son is my entire world. I will do any and everything for my little boy. My whole heart belongs to my little human being. He is my main focus and while everything I do is to help better his life and upbringing I also believe I should be able to do things for myself, as well.
While I am his mother, and that is one of my biggest responsibilities, I am an individual, too. Most of my time is spent doing things for Trent, and I love that, but sometimes, I need time to unwind and focus on me.
I’ve come to notice that older generations have different ideals on raising children and the responsibility of a parent. My own parents, who are in their mid-forties, disagree with my opinions. They believe that until my child turns 18, I shouldn’t travel or really do much other than raise him. My mother says she understands the need for alone time but to an extent. I agree with this, but at the same time I don’t, especially since my situation isn’t a traditional one, the way my parent’s was.
If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, you’ll know that Trent’s father and I are no longer together. His father takes care of him 3 days and 2 nights each week, but I am the custodial parent. If my situation was different and his father and I were still together, no one would bat an eye at any trips I planned to take, but because his father isn’t in the picture, in the traditional sense, I’m being regarded differently. It’s frustrating, to say the least, that I have family members (my parents) being judgmental about my decisions about my child and my life. While Trent is their grandson, I am his mother. The choices I make for and about him shouldn’t concern them when they are causing no harm to him, especially since I didn’t ask them for anything. I have made sitter arrangements, and while he’ll be in their home, they aren’t watching him.
At the end of the day, I don’t think having small children should prevent anyone from traveling or doing things that make them happy. Your life and your decisions are yours to make. Other people may judge or share negative views about your choices, but remember, you’re the one who has to live with the consequences of those decisions.
Life is short… much too short. If you treat each day as if it’s your last and you’ll begin to live a happier life!